Many, many years ago, my wife (long before she became my wife, like back in 1966) told me about a friend of hers with whom she had a strong, positive, close bond. Then, a few years after my wife and I had wed back in 1995, we took a trip to Florida. It was then at a restaurant where we dined with this old friend and her husband that I was personally inroduced to my wife's close friend. Indeed, I had thought that I also had become a friend of the friend of my wife as over the years she and I exchanged e-mails that were very pleasant and became connected on the social media. The key phrase there is "I had thought."
There were several instances where the "friend" made comments on my Facebook wall that other friends of mine felt were arrogant, abrasive, and insulting. Consequently, I was a bit more careful in monitoring the contents of my Facebook wall that were visible to "THE FRIEND" whose name is Carole Hujber Sanek.
Apparently, I was not careful enough nor discrete enough in a posted message thread of mine on Facebook that I had made visible to the public last month(i.e. November 2014). And, I must also admit, as the message thread went on I was not as tactful, courteous, and polite as I should have been. Well, regardless, the fact remains that Carole Hujber Sanek removed me as a "friend" and has blocked me on Facebook; and, she no longer communicates with me.
I am going to post the contents of that message thread (which I copied and saved in my computer) here on my blog in order for you to read the Facebook exchange yourself.
But before I do that, I am first going to share with you other information that was on the Facebook pages of Carole Hujber Sanek herself that I had also copied and saved in my computer before she took the action to "unfriend" and block me on Facebook.
Here is that Facebook information:
Carole Hujber Sanek
WORK
The Social Butterfly Media Marketing
Chief Content Creator/Owner/Social Media Marketing Specialist · January 1, 2011 to present · Brooksville, Florida
Click here to go to my page: http://www.facebook.com/socialbutterflymediamarketing
After Breast Cancer Reviving Surviving Thriving
2011 to present
Inspirational breast cancer wellness page
Bar Camp Sarasota
Presenter · In 2013
Did a Twitter session to SRO
Castle Dream Real Estate LLC
Director of Marketing and Sales Agent · In 2007 · Tampa, Florida
Virtual real estate company covering the state of Florida, specializing in short sales. Lawrence Sanek HAFA certified Broker/Owner is the negotiating Broker you want on your side. I like him by mine too.
New Homes Realty, Inc.
Realtor · March 2005 to March 2008
buyers agent for new construction housing
Inspired to Thrive
EDUCATION
Parma
Class of 1964 · Parma, Ohio
Cuyahoga Community College
Class of 1981 · RN · Cleveland, Ohio
CURRENT CITY AND HOMETOWN
Current city
Brooksville, Florida
Hometown
Cleveland, Ohio
OTHER PLACES LIVED
San Jose, Costa Rica
Moved in May 1995
Contact Info
Phone +352 54 00 17 7
Email carole@carolesanek.com
Website http://www.carolesanek.com
carolesanek(Twitter)
Website
http://carolesanek.com
http://afterbreastcancerrevivingsurvivin...
http://isurviveddamnneareverything.com
http://www.twitter.com/carolesanek
http://thecrazymarketingladiesshow.com
http://www.twitter.com/socialpapillon
Ask for Carole's email
http://facebook.com/carolelynnesanek
BASIC INFORMATION
Birthday
November 26
Gender
Female
Religious Views
yes
Political Views
Independent
ABOUT CAROLE
CEO Of The Social Butterfly Media Marketing, Published Author,Winner of 1 of 23 Best Breast Cancer Blogs with healthline.com, Public Speaker with Breast Cancer Wellness Magazine, Director of BCW Ambassador Program,National Winner of the Amoena USA Breast Cancer Thriver Cruise 2011, Expert International Real Estate Specialist & Director of Marketing with Castle Dream Real Estate LLC. Creator of 365 Things to Do in the Greater Tampa Bay Area. Breast cancer survivor 19 years, wife & Great Friend. I speak the language of reality. Check out my web pages below! PS If you send me a friend request and I cannot find anything about you, sorry, the answer is no. I like friend requests with personal messages telling me more. Thx.
OTHER NAMES
Carole Hujber
Other
FAVORITE QUOTES
It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all the doubt.-Mark Twain
I am very easily satisfied with the very best! Winston Churchill
And then there is this one dedicated to a certain person who needs to read this "Just how small do I have to get to fit into your world?"
I own my thoughts, no one else owns them, or speaks for me. I will not be drawn into drama because that is a very negative place to be. I will not get angry because anger kills your T-cells which you need everyday, all the time, to keep you healthy. I will not judge your opinion, because you own it. I may not agree with your opinion, but I will not argue it, or argue with you. If you think I am wrong to feel this way, then push the unfriend option - you own your decisions, you own your choices.
LIFE EVENTS
2013
Started Working at Bar Camp Sarasota
2012
Awarded 1 of 23 Best Breast Cancer Blogs in 2012
Created 2013 Breast Cancer 7th Annual Thriver's Cruise page, Pinterest, Twitter
23 Best Breast Cancer Blog of 2012
Painted the whole house inside bold beautiful colors.
2011
Started Working at The Social Butterfly Media Marketing
Installed as President Elect Tampa Chapter Women's Council of Realtors
Elected President Elect Tampa Chapter Women's Council of Realtors
2008
Left Job at New Homes Realty, Inc.
2007
Started Working at Castle Dream Real Estate LLC
2005
Started Working at New Homes Realty, Inc.
2000
Got Married
1999
Got Engaged
1998
Hawaii
1995
Sun Fun
Moved to San Jose, Costa Rica
1994
Got a Real Estate License
1993
The Mammogram that changed my life
Bavaria/Austria/France for Christmas 1993
1991
First Trip Across the Atlantic
1985
Wheel of Fortune contestant
1981
Graduated from Cuyahoga Community College
1964
Graduated from Parma
Born
Born on November 26
NOW for that Facebook exchange.
Here is the Facebook News Feed 0f Roland Louis Hansen activitity update posted on November 5, 2014 at 2:14pm:
House for Sale in the 55+ community of Dreamland Villa, a Maricopa County Island subdivision in Arizona completely surrounded by the City of Mesa. Any serious offer with a realistic price will be considered. It's time to move on!
My little house in Dreamland Villa, Arizona.
My Valley of the Sun home in Dreamland Villa, Arizona.
The gigantic Rosemary Bush in the backyard of my home in Dreamland Villa, Arizona.
Roland Louis Hansen added 3 new photos.
House For Sale:
Dreamland Villa 55+ community Maricopa County Island Mesa, AZ 85205; built 1966, cinderblock construction, 2 bedroom, 1 bath, 924 taxable square foot excludes enclosed Arizona room, laundry room, and workshop; car porch (2) with 99.9% UV protection siding. covered front porch, large covered back patio porch; mesquite tree, 2 young palms, 1 grapefruit tree, 2 orange trees. Purchased in January 2003 for $77,000; since then - new (30 year guarantee) roof, new roof mounted HVAC heat pump, new hot water tank, new carpeting and seamless flooring, new window in laundry room. An added positive feature of this cute house is that it faces south. That is a real plus for homes in the Valley Of The Sun when considering the solar seasonal effects.
Wednesday, November 5 at 2:14pmRESPONDING COMMENTS
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Elaine Soukup, Patricia Lieberman and 2 others like this.
Corey Novick: You might want to get some better photos, including pictures of the interior
November 5 · Like · Reply · 1
Genessa Nessie Ginsberg Hollander: Can't believe you are actually doing it. I will call you on the weekend. Love
November 5 · Like · Reply
Carole Louy: GONNA STAY IN LUCAS CO?
November 5 · Like · Reply
Marti Collier: Where you moving to? Back here full time?
November 6 · Like · Reply
Dale Zolciak: How much
November 7 · Like · Reply
Roland Louis Hansen: Cut the middle man and make a direct purchase offer. You and I both save unnecessary realtor-related fees. You get a house at a much lower purchase price and I save the hassle of listing with a realtor and all the malarkey that goes with that. I do not seek profit, only a return on the costs and expenses that I have invested since January 2003. Look at the following link to see what Dreamland Villa homes are being sold for:
Dreamland Villa Homes for Sale - Dreamland Villa, Mesa AZ - MovotoView over 20 homes for sale in Dreamland Villa, Mesa,...November 8 · Like · Reply
Jan Charles Hansen: What is a serious offer, give me a range, such as _ to_
November 9 · Like · Reply
Carole Sanek: malarkey? well anyone who makes an offer needs to do inspections and an appraisal - malarkey? I have nothing against FSBOs as long as people are educated about malarkey.
November 9 · Like · Reply
Roland Louis Hansen: Carole - I despise real estate agents - my opinion is based on dealings I have had on several occasions since 1971 with both seller and buyer agents.
AND BTW, Carole Sanek, Inspections and appraisals may be performed by means other than using a realtor!!!!
November 9 · Like · Reply
Roland Louis Hansen: Patricia Cardarelli, Patricia Cardarelli, Dale Zolciak, Jan Charles Hansen, and others who may be interested in the selling price of my Dreamland Villa Arizona home:
You can get a good idea of what I mean by "reasonable" when you consider previous statements I have made on what I had paid, what improvements I have made, the comment I made stating " that. I do not seek profit, only a return on the costs and expenses that I have invested since January 2003" and if you check the link I placed above showing prices of 'Dreamland Villa Homes for Sale'
Anyone interested in making an offer to purchase this home may contact me via personal Facebook message, yahoo e-mail, gmail, or telephone call.
As an aside, I wonder why people who are not interested in even considering the purchase of the house would even ask. I see that some have asked and then removed their questions.
On another note, if folks wish to ask me personal questions such as my future plans, where I might choose to live, etc. and/or to have a one-on-one personal dialogue with me -- that is why I have e-mail - please use that medium to do so. My e-mail address is in the contact information section on my Facebook "About" page. AND, of course, a telephone conversation is always nice - as is conversation during personal visits.
November 9 · Like · Reply
Roland Louis Hansen: Carole Sanek (a real estate agent) has chosen to write about my comment about "listing with a realtor and all the malarkey that goes with that" on her Facebook page and to do so without tagging me. What a gutless move on her part!!! Self-serving on her part; that is just one example of why I have a low opinion of real estate agents. Check out her message thread for yourself (it is a public posting as is mine here). https://www.facebook.com/carolelynnesanek/posts/10204308205578116
November 9 · Like · Reply
Carole Sanek: I did that you are right and I would do it again because buyers need to beware of buying without guidance and guidance doesn't have to come from any REALTORS® - it can come from a title agency, from a lender, from a relative who has had a bad experience in buying, from an attorney who would tell you all the steps to complete before signing on the dotted line. Google can even assist people in the steps of buying a FSBO. I have no problem with anyone trying to move a property on their own - none at all. I do have a problem when anyone profiles all agents as you did. I have a problem with people who resort to insults and ugliness as you have and I would like to point out that I never called you out by name even though for 10 seconds I was tempted to do that but I didn't. So now that you have called yourself out on my wall with your post made in anger have a nice day and I wish you luck in selling your home.
November 9 · Like · Reply
Roland Louis Hansen: I am not angry, Carole. I just call them as I see them. Apparenly, you are intolerant of those who do not share your perspective. You have actually proved my point in your "unprofessional" and "unethical" and "unfriendly" behavior in the manner in which you have hijacked my message thread for your own personal purposes.
November 9 · Like · Reply
Carole Sanek: Roland why are you feeling so persecuted? I never named you by name, you did that. You came onto my post and identified yourself.....why? You have the right to your opinion as I do mine so I am a tad confused as to why you seem to think you are the only person allowed to have one. When one chooses inflammatory words, one should be aware that is akin to throwing down a verbal gauntlet. You are still calling names and I have been nothing but sincere with you I wish you luck and happiness!
November 9 · Like · Reply
Roland Louis Hansen: Carole, you insist on hijacking my message thread. You continue to write in order to divert everyone's attention. Fine. Be that way. Have a wonderful life, enjoy your day, and make lots of money in your pursuit of happines in the real estate business.
November 9 · Like · Reply
Carole Sanek: I am not in the real estate business......haven't been for years so bye now
November 9 · Like · Reply
Roland Louis Hansen Carole Sanek -- Keep on writing, Carole. It seems to give you pleasure to hijack my Facebook wall and my message thread.
November 9 · Like · Reply
And here is the Facebook News Feed Of Carole Sanek activity update posted on November 9, 2014 at 8:37 am:
I copied this out of a post here on FB from someone selling their own property:
Cut the middle man and make a direct purchase offer. You and I both save unnecessary realtor-related fees. You get a house at a much lower purchase price and I save the hassle of listing with a realtor and all the malarkey that goes with that.
Sunday, November 9 at 8:37 amRESPONDING COMMENTS
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Carole Sanek: It's malarkey to know you should still get everything inspected right? It's malarkey to know that a seller should disclose anything that they know is wrong with the house right? It's malarkey to know that a buyer should still get it appraised right? I have nothing against a FSBO as long as people understand all that malarkey could cost them in the long run.
November 9 · Like · Reply · 2
Steven Retalic: Do not forget to mention we check and help close open permits liens and other hidden things that could cost the buyer thousands
November 9 · Like · Reply · 1
Carole Sanek: Spot on oh and what about all that malarkey that could happen if there are problems - you know being sued malarkey which will always be more expensive then paying unnecessary realtor-related fees right?
November 9 · Edited · Like · Reply · 1
Bill Luther: Should be illegal! Lol!
November 9 · Like · Reply
Carole Sanek: I am "this close" to tagging this person - giving him a shout out to his malarkey.
November 9 · Like · Reply · 3
Bill Luther: Reading your post pissed me off so much I've gotta have a Bloody Mary to calm down.
November 9 · Like · Reply · 2
Carole Sanek: I know and the seller said he made all kinds of improvements - hope he pulled permits.
November 9 · Like · Reply · 2
Sherri Elaine: You wouldn't pull your own tooth would you? No, you'd go to the dentist. So that seller wants to sell himself short and get less than market value to save a few thousand dollars? So many FSBO don't realize that they will actually make back the real estate commission and then some by listing with a REALTOR. And Buyer Beware! That seller is probably hiding something and been told by a professional that he should or shouldn't do something.... All that malarky!
November 9 · Like · Reply · 1
Carole Sanek: well said Sherri Elaine
November 9 · Like · Reply
Carole Sanek I am waiting to see if he takes my opinion down from his post - then I will invite him here LOL
November 9 · Like · Reply
Sherri Elaine: On the flip side, I see so many FSBO who are WAY over priced and think buyers aren't savvy enough to check Trulia and Zillow, where I might add the market values are way low. But we RICH REALTORS, we're all out to make a buck and fund our lavish lifestyles because we are all like the agents on Million Dollar Listing. We don't put out any of our own money BEFORE the house sells and we get paid. Nope. WE WORK FOR FREE UNTIL YOUR HOUSE SELLS... WE ARE IN THE RED UNTIL YOUR HOUSE SELLS AND THEN STILL SO EVEN AFTER BECAUSE OF THE TIME AND EXPENSE BECAUSE OF YOUR STUBBORN KNOW IT ALL ASS!!!!
November 9 · Like · Reply · 1
Peter Diulio: I once went with no realtor thinking "oh I'll save the commission $ fee" BOY did I get burned, NEVER AGAIN , I've bought now for rentals and ALWAYS use realtor. Well worth it.. Thank you for mentioning this Carole Sanek, people need to be aware of what's out there HIDDEN..
November 9 · Like · Reply · 1
Carole Sanek: Go Sherri Elaine and Lawrence F Sanek hasn't seen this status yet oh boy.......
November 9 · Like · Reply · 1
Lawrence F Sanek: Boy lets see at least 30 things that can make the deal go south, then how do they market their home to the WORLD like I do and all that paper work that is required to get you to the closing table. Oh and I've seen deals that could fall apart at the closing table if you didn't have a competent real estate professional.
November 9 · Like · Reply · 1
Lawrence F Sanek: GOOD LUCK THEN WHEN IT DOES NOT WORK HIRE THAT REAL ESTATE PROFESSIONAL- WHATS THAT STATEMENT ABOUT A LAWYER THAT DEFENDS THEMSELVES. LOL LOL
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Carole Sanek: Well that was a much calmer response from Lawrence then I expected LOL - I actually copied what this "friend" wrote and posted it here based on his opinion of us as REALTORS®
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Lawrence F Sanek: Oh and I forgot that's why only about 2-3% of all sales are FSBO. Don't forget about the owner of one of the largest FSBO services that hired a real estate professional to sell their home. Gee I wonder why again LOL VERY LOUD
November 9 · Like · Reply · 1
Carole Sanek: OK Lawrence is on a toot
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Roland Louis Hansen: Obviously, you presume to know me well. Far from it, Carole. I never state anything that I am not willing to have attributed to me. I am the person to whom you are belittling. Oh, and by the way, I also stated " Carole - I despise real estate agents - my opinion is based on dealings I have had on several occasions since 1971 with both seller and buyer agents.
AND BTW, Carole Sanek, Inspections and appraisals may be performed by means other than using a realtor!!!!"
November 9 · Like · Reply
Carole Sanek: First of all you did the belittling of REALTORS® all I did was post your belittling opinion so let's get this in the proper order next let's get more facts straight inspections and appraisals are NOT done by REALTORS® they are done by licensed professionals in their respective fields. It is a crying shame that you made some bad choices in the past with buyer and seller agents but that's on you - there are plenty of honest ethical agents in this country blaming your issues on all of them is past the intelligence I know you possess.
November 9 · Like · Reply
Roland Louis Hansen: Look at the entire message thread. AND, yes, I do have a low opinion of real estate agents. So, instead of belittling me, Carole and you other real estate people, why are you not trying to persuade me in a positive way to change my opinion??? Oh, come to think of it, if you believe I am wrong, then maybe you are of the opinion that two wrongs make a right. https://www.facebook.com/roland.hansen/posts/10205354712375727?pnref=story
November 9 · Like · Reply
Carole Sanek: Not going to work, done discussing this mostly because my point was buyer beware - because there are some very shady sellers out there. I know you are not one of those and that you are an honest and ethical person who would never be anything but honest and ethical in your sale. Wishing you the best of luck and happiness as you move on in your life.
November 9 · Like · Reply
Roland Louis Hansen: Yeah, right, Carole! I really believe your sincerity as you wrote "Wishing you the best of luck and happiness as you move on in your life." -- sarcasm is an attribute of yours, I see.
November 9 · Like · Reply
Lawrence F Sanek: Actually she was being classy - and she ended the conversation I think you need to do the same.
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Roland Louis Hansen: Gee, thanks, Larry. Defending your wife is the right thing to do. I see you want to end the message thread by being the one to say just that. I am game if you and everyone else is -- No need to reply to this, folks.
Sunday, November 9 at 12:39pm · Like · Reply
POSTSCRIPT:
Incidentally, here is a message I received on Twitter: "You are blocked from following @carolesanek and viewing @carolesanek's Tweets."
So, that is that; however,
I do want to remind everyone and draw your attention to the following:
From the Facebook pages of Carole Sanek:
"I own my thoughts, no one else owns them, or speaks for me. I will not be drawn into drama because that is a very negative place to be. I will not get angry because anger kills your T-cells which you need everyday, all the time, to keep you healthy. I will not judge your opinion, because you own it. I may not agree with your opinion, but I will not argue it, or argue with you. If you think I am wrong to feel this way, then push the unfriend option - you own your decisions, you own your choices."
"2011 Installed as President Elect Tampa Chapter Women's Council of Realtors"
3 comments:
Roland, I hope you will permit me to be honest- While she was oversensitive and in the wrong for not tagging you IMHO, I think (as you admitted), you let your bitterness at the profession color your politeness and objectivity. You, in essence, came out firing. Which is your right- and I comment based on I do not know the woman or how she's treated you over the years. You and I have a lot in common when it comes to crusading against those that piss us off.
But, y'know what? Like I always say, the blog is where you come to vent. Have at her!
Thank you for your comments, CWMartin. I always welcome your feedback and I appreciate your contributions. Please feel free to always be open and honest; that is what I prefer.
I finally sold the house in Arizona, doing so through a realtor --- after I went through several other realtors who I fired for their decetful practices.
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