Is it acceptable for adult children to disassociate themselves from their parent(s) in the real world of everyday life based on disapproval of the parent's use of social media and/or dislike of a parent's personality?
Why do adult children push away a parent who had not been abusive and who had done everything possible for them to have a good life?
"However they arrive at estrangement, parents and adult children seem to be looking at the past and present through very different eyes. Estranged parents often tell me that their adult child is rewriting the history of their childhood, accusing them of things they didn’t do, and/or failing to acknowledge the ways in which the parent demonstrated their love and commitment. Adult children frequently say the parent is gaslighting them by not acknowledging the harm they caused or are still causing, failing to respect their boundaries, and/or being unwilling to accept the adult child’s requirements for a healthy relationship. Both sides often fail to recognize how profoundly the rules of family life have changed over the past half century. 'Never before have family relationships been seen as so interwoven with the search for personal growth, the pursuit of happiness, and the need to confront and overcome psychological obstacles,' the historian Stephanie Coontz, the director of education and research for the Council on Contemporary Families, told me in an e- mail."
I find it very disheartening and disappointing that people seem to not be willing to speak out on this topic.
The lack of caring, of concern, and of chutzpah saddens and depresses me.
If we cannot have peaceful co-existence, understanding, and love in our families, how can we ever have peaceful co-existence, understanding, and love in the world?
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